I love that. What story are you telling yourself? Are you constantly dredging up all the old hurts and wounds from a bad childhood or ended relationship or illness or any of the millions of things we can all complain about? It's not an effective way to create your ideal life.
Solution: stop telling your old story. Start telling your NEW story. Starting now. Start catching yourself when you’re chatting with friends and the old story starts to come out. Notice it. Shift to the NEW story. When I was first getting into this idea I’d say things like, “Oh! Well that’s my old story. The new story is…”
Powerful stuff. In another Note we’ll go into the science of how all this stuff works. It’s called
“neuro-plasticity” and basically means that our brains are malleable—we can (literally) re-wire our brains/minds/consciousness. Super quickly: Imagine going sledding after a fresh snow. Nothing but pristine white snow. You walk up with your sled and take the first trip down for the day. You go this way and that and get to the bottom. Your course was pretty random, yah? Then, you walk back up again. And you come back down. Odds are you’re going to hit some of the grooves you created from the first trip. You do it again and again and again. Now, by the end of the day, you’re likely to have grooved a pretty strong little sled-trail—making the odds that you head down the same route and wind up at the same destination PRETTY STRONG. Make sense?
That’s pretty much how our brains are. We’ve spent DECADES thinking the same thoughts. We’re GROOVED so strongly that when something happens we literally don’t even have to think for a moment for our old patterns to play themselves out. (Like taking the sled up for a ride at the end of the day with the tracks in place.)
The solution? You’ve gotta put a road block up on the normal path. In this case, you’ve gotta STOP telling your old story and START telling your new. So, if you’re truly committed to creating your ideal life, STOP telling your old story. STOP STOP STOP. Don’t let a negative sentence complete itself. Instead, start telling the amazing story of your new, gloriously unfolding life. Starting Now. :)
In order to tell a new story, you don't have to figure out exactly what the change would be or how it would feel or how it would come about. You just need to ease yourself into a feeling of more hopeful around this.
This is an except from a Boston workshop:
"You just gotta tell the story the way you want it to be. And what we notice is, at first your story will be sort of like this.
"I don't like it this way at all. I don't like it this way at all. I don't like it. I don't like it. I don't like it. I don't like it. It's not fair. I don't like it, it's not fair."
But then, as you start telling a new story, your story will sound like "I'd like it to be different. I'd like it to be different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see that it's very different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different."
You can stay in that holding pattern your whole life. "I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different."
But now hear this story. "I'd like it to be different. I want it to be different. I hope it will be different. It doesn't look different." That much difference in your story will help it be different.
"I want it to be different. I hope it will be different. I'd really like it to be different. It's not different." Can you feel the difference? Before it was want it, don't have it, want it, don't have it, want it, don't have it. Now it's want it, hope it, really hope it, really want it, don't have it. More air time over here, did you see?
"I want it to be different, I'd like it to be different, I see some things are a little different... this isn't different." Mmmm... Better story.
"I want it to be different. I've noticed it's becoming a little different. It's not as different as I would like it to be, but it's different."
"Oooh, I like this different story. The manifestation hasn't come yet, but I'm feeling better in the story." "I wish you'd come along.... But! I'm feeling better in this different story. I'm feeling better, I'm feeling better, things are loosening up. Ooh, did I tell you that this happened? Something good happened, something good happened, something good happened." Milk it!
"Something good happened, something really good happened, something really good happened, something really good happened, something really good happened!" Call everybody you know. "Something really good happened, something really good happened, something really good happened, something really good happened."
Solution: stop telling your old story. Start telling your NEW story. Starting now. Start catching yourself when you’re chatting with friends and the old story starts to come out. Notice it. Shift to the NEW story. When I was first getting into this idea I’d say things like, “Oh! Well that’s my old story. The new story is…”
Powerful stuff. In another Note we’ll go into the science of how all this stuff works. It’s called
“neuro-plasticity” and basically means that our brains are malleable—we can (literally) re-wire our brains/minds/consciousness. Super quickly: Imagine going sledding after a fresh snow. Nothing but pristine white snow. You walk up with your sled and take the first trip down for the day. You go this way and that and get to the bottom. Your course was pretty random, yah? Then, you walk back up again. And you come back down. Odds are you’re going to hit some of the grooves you created from the first trip. You do it again and again and again. Now, by the end of the day, you’re likely to have grooved a pretty strong little sled-trail—making the odds that you head down the same route and wind up at the same destination PRETTY STRONG. Make sense?
That’s pretty much how our brains are. We’ve spent DECADES thinking the same thoughts. We’re GROOVED so strongly that when something happens we literally don’t even have to think for a moment for our old patterns to play themselves out. (Like taking the sled up for a ride at the end of the day with the tracks in place.)
The solution? You’ve gotta put a road block up on the normal path. In this case, you’ve gotta STOP telling your old story and START telling your new. So, if you’re truly committed to creating your ideal life, STOP telling your old story. STOP STOP STOP. Don’t let a negative sentence complete itself. Instead, start telling the amazing story of your new, gloriously unfolding life. Starting Now. :)
In order to tell a new story, you don't have to figure out exactly what the change would be or how it would feel or how it would come about. You just need to ease yourself into a feeling of more hopeful around this.
This is an except from a Boston workshop:
"You just gotta tell the story the way you want it to be. And what we notice is, at first your story will be sort of like this.
"I don't like it this way at all. I don't like it this way at all. I don't like it. I don't like it. I don't like it. I don't like it. It's not fair. I don't like it, it's not fair."
But then, as you start telling a new story, your story will sound like "I'd like it to be different. I'd like it to be different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see that it's very different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different."
You can stay in that holding pattern your whole life. "I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different. I'd like it to be different but I don't see it's very different."
But now hear this story. "I'd like it to be different. I want it to be different. I hope it will be different. It doesn't look different." That much difference in your story will help it be different.
"I want it to be different. I hope it will be different. I'd really like it to be different. It's not different." Can you feel the difference? Before it was want it, don't have it, want it, don't have it, want it, don't have it. Now it's want it, hope it, really hope it, really want it, don't have it. More air time over here, did you see?
"I want it to be different, I'd like it to be different, I see some things are a little different... this isn't different." Mmmm... Better story.
"I want it to be different. I've noticed it's becoming a little different. It's not as different as I would like it to be, but it's different."
"Oooh, I like this different story. The manifestation hasn't come yet, but I'm feeling better in the story."
"Something good happened, something really good happened, something really good happened, something really good happened, something really good happened!" Call everybody you know. "Something really good happened, something really good happened, something really good happened, something really good happened."
